date taken: july 2009
location: Valmadrera, Italy
the journey ends here,
or is it the beginning?
today i felt a sudden rush of emotions as i stood by the photo assignment of a sweet couple....catholic weddings, which were thought by most people to be too extravagant, in its galore of ceremonies, costumes and rituals. For me however i felt that it was a testament of faith, a new faith, a journey together.....
well....always loved weddings but i must admit that as an Asian girl, even though far away from home, i do face the usual (mid - late 20's blues)...sigh...we are expected to go with the flow, and girls of my age usually are fidgety about marriage (or more likely to the need to be married at the normal age). Here in Italy, what is considered young, is not what it is for us back home....i guess by now most single friends back home are already getting really worried - somehow i sometimes felt that, the worry - is more about the fear of being left out and labeled a black sheep more than the fear of not finding true love (if that exists)..
i couldn't help but wonder (borrowed the infamous phrase of Carrie Bradshaw)...under it all, what does marriage means?
Asian weddings - are of a completely different world in respect of the wedding i attended today...it is somehow depressing to see the meaning of the sacred bonding of 2 people who want to spend their lives together are turned into a 'show', a spectacular gimmick of what marriage is seen as.....in the modern society....
i have seen Chinese / Malay / Indian couples who spent they whole lifesavings to have beautiful albums of wedding photos, in all kind of costumes (you name it)...and then, splurging another big sum for extravagant dinners of 500 guests (minimum)..in large 5 star hotels....and putting on a show for the guests.....what exactly are we trying to justify?
i can understand exactly the feeling of wanting to share.....(if i ever get married) of course i would love to have all my loved ones and friends with me, but that doesn't mean i have to be broke afterwards..
i guess that was why i was overwhelmed by the wedding today...somehow what mattered was the 2 deeply committed people, and the willingness to stand tall to testify their decision.....and then having a good time with loved ones....afterall, it's all that matters, isn't it?
however....many in the end...(if i do get married)....maybe i will unconsciously succumb to it all...who knows?
well....always loved weddings but i must admit that as an Asian girl, even though far away from home, i do face the usual (mid - late 20's blues)...sigh...we are expected to go with the flow, and girls of my age usually are fidgety about marriage (or more likely to the need to be married at the normal age). Here in Italy, what is considered young, is not what it is for us back home....i guess by now most single friends back home are already getting really worried - somehow i sometimes felt that, the worry - is more about the fear of being left out and labeled a black sheep more than the fear of not finding true love (if that exists)..
i couldn't help but wonder (borrowed the infamous phrase of Carrie Bradshaw)...under it all, what does marriage means?
Asian weddings - are of a completely different world in respect of the wedding i attended today...it is somehow depressing to see the meaning of the sacred bonding of 2 people who want to spend their lives together are turned into a 'show', a spectacular gimmick of what marriage is seen as.....in the modern society....
i have seen Chinese / Malay / Indian couples who spent they whole lifesavings to have beautiful albums of wedding photos, in all kind of costumes (you name it)...and then, splurging another big sum for extravagant dinners of 500 guests (minimum)..in large 5 star hotels....and putting on a show for the guests.....what exactly are we trying to justify?
i can understand exactly the feeling of wanting to share.....(if i ever get married) of course i would love to have all my loved ones and friends with me, but that doesn't mean i have to be broke afterwards..
i guess that was why i was overwhelmed by the wedding today...somehow what mattered was the 2 deeply committed people, and the willingness to stand tall to testify their decision.....and then having a good time with loved ones....afterall, it's all that matters, isn't it?
however....many in the end...(if i do get married)....maybe i will unconsciously succumb to it all...who knows?
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